Skip the apologetic fruit basket: A no-contact order means no contact whatsoever

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By Amy E. Feldman, Judge Technology Solutions
PHILADELPHIA (KYW Newsradio) — One man's attempt to apologize was another man's injunction.

An Arizona man stormed into his neighbors' house naked, fought with the neighbors, and damaged their wall. He was charged with numerous offenses and ordered not to have contact with them. 

He then sent them a fruit basket to apologize. (Wonder what that card said: Sorry about my aggressive and destructive nudity, have a pear.)

He was re-arrested for violating the court injunction against harassing them. Is it really a violation if he was trying to be nice? Yes. Absolutely.  

A person can request a no-contact order if he or she has been a victim of physical, verbal or emotional abuse, domestic violence, or stalking, and it means the defendant must stay away and cease all communication with the victim. 

Since domestic violence in particular involves a pattern of increasing tension that builds to violence and follows with apologies, the continued contact is seen as an attempt to continue the cycle and is therefore prohibited.  

Really, there are no words, gifts, or citrus fruits more helpful than silence.